Recommended Citation
Lawal, J. O. (2025, April 30). We can change God’s mind (Vol. 7, No. 51). Youth for Jesus.
“Two years later, when Absalom’s sheepshearers were at Baal Hazor near the border of Ephraim, he invited all the king’s sons to come there. Absalom went to the king and said, Your servant has had shearers come. Will the king and his officials please join me?”” (2Sam 13:23-24NIV)
Why did Absalom invite all the king’s sons to a feast on the occasion mentioned in our opening bible text? Was it because he really cared about them and wanted to share some love with them? No! Rather, it was to have an opportunity to murder Amnon, their eldest brother.
Now why did he want to murder Amnon? It was because he had raped their sister, Tamar. But the matter had already been settled in some way by David their father. Why, then, did Absalom still want to punish Amnon with death for what he did? It was because he did not have a forgiving spirit like David.
Truly, it does not seem like David and his officials handled that rape case well. That is because we are not told in the account that Amnon was given any serious punishment for what he did, if he was punished at all. In any case, everyone else in some way believed that the matter had been laid to rest and should be treated as such. So, Absalom also should have treated it accordingly.
But he did not. Instead, he pretended that he too had dropped the matter and moved on. But two years later, as we see in our opening text, Absalom struck. He killed his brother when no one was suspecting. And that was the beginning of his own end as well.
Now what lesson is there in this for us? First, it is that we should take the word of God that tells us to do only good and not evil to people seriously. Otherwise, we may end up hurting people that will never forgive us for hurting them, regardless of what we or others do to appease them. And they will never forgive us because they do not have the fear of God in them at all or because they do not believe in God’s message of forgiveness. Therefore, they may go to any extent to punish us for our sins against them. And unless God saves us from them, we will not be safe at all, even two or twenty years after we have hurt them. (Cf. Psalm 34:11-14; 1Pet 3:10-11)
Another lesson for us in this is that if we refuse to forgive those who have hurt us, as God has told us to do, we are giving room for all kinds of dangerous and murderous thoughts to fill our hearts. The reason murderous thoughts entered Absalom’s heart and filled it was that he refused to forgive his brother, Amnon. And those murderous thoughts did not leave him until the murder of his brother was executed. (Cf. Eph 5:32)
In like manner, if we too refuse to forgive others, all sorts of dangerous thoughts may fill our hearts, as I pointed out before. And what these thoughts will do to us, even years after we have been hurt and have refused to be healed by God, may surprise us. Then we may find ourselves becoming worse than those who hurt us.
So, if you have been hurt in any way, forgive those who are involved and allow God to heal you. That way, you will not end up becoming worse than the evil you are trying to punish.
Cheers!
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