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Make sure they can’t reach you | By: J.O. Lawal | Date: February 21, 2024 | Series: Youth for Jesus | Number: Vol. 6, No. 41

fire in my bones
fire in my bones

“So he said to his sons, “Saddle the donkey for me.” And when they had saddled the donkey for him, he mounted it and rode after the man of God. He found him sitting under an oak tree and asked, “Are you the man of God who came from Judah?” “I am,” he replied.” (1Kings 13:13-14NIV)

The bible text above gives us a little part of the sad story of a man of God that was deceived by an older man of God. As the account goes, the younger man of God had been sent by God on a particular day to prophesy against King Jeroboam and his altar of idolatry. And when he did, great signs accompanied his prophecy, great signs that baffled and, at the same time, impressed that unfaithful king. So, he decided to entertain and reward him. (Cf. 1Kings 13:1-6)

But was that what God wanted? Did He send His prophet to him so that he could entertain and reward him or so that he could repent of his wickedness? Evidently, He sent him to him so that he could turn him away from his wickedness.

In any case, because God had already known the heart of this wicked king, He instructed the prophet He was sending to him not to eat or drink anything in that land or to return by the way he came there. And he obeyed the voice of God. In fact, he told Jeroboam that even if he offered him half of his wealth, he would not take it. So, he left the place without eating or drinking and by another route. (Cf. 1Kings 13:7-10)

However, an older prophet in that city went after him, found him where he was probably resting and brought him back to his house to eat and to drink. How did he do that? How did he make a man than rejected the king’s wealth to accept just a round of meal from him? He lied to him. He told him an angel of God had appeared to him and had told him to bring him back home to refresh himself. But where was this older prophet when God was speaking to the young man? Did God not see him in Bethel before sending this young man from the land of Judah? (Cf. 1Kings 13:11-19)

Surely, God had seen him in Bethel before passing over him to someone else. Why? We are not told. But the fact that he lied to another man of God, one who only showed him respect as an older prophet, says it all. Unfortunately for that poor young prophet, it was still this same old lying prophet that God used in prophesying his immediate death. What a shame! (Cf. 1Kings 13:20-32)

Well, you can see that it is not a new thing for older believers to deliberately deceive or mislead younger and unsuspecting ones. So, even if someone introduces himself to you as an older and more experienced believer, if you do not know what he has been doing with his life, don’t make the mistake following him. And even if you know what people have been doing with their lives, inasmuch as whatever they tell you is not in line with the body of truth given to us in Scriptures, don’t accept or act on it. Follow people only to the degree they follow Christ. Otherwise, you may end up being devoured by the devil, as that young prophet was devoured by a roaring lion.

But here is a thoughtful question for us to consider: Why was that old prophet able to find and deceive the young prophet and bring about his untimely death? The reason was that the man was resting in the wrong place. He was supposed to be long gone before that old prophet would even hear anything about him, especially since he did not personally witness his ministration against King Jeroboam and his altar of idolatry. Why, then, did he choose to relax very close to a place where he had just been tempted with great wealth to disobey God?

Of course, God did not tell him not to relax in Bethel or anywhere close to it. He only told him not to eat or drink there and not to return by the same way he had come there. But common sense should have told him that the longer he stayed in that place or around there, the greater the possibility of his being tempted to sin against God. So, having completed his job, he should have wasted no time in removing himself completely away from the reach of Bethel and her sinful people. And it was because he did not do that but put himself within the reach of temptation that he was found and destroyed by it.

In like manner, God may not have said that you should not live or make friends with certain people. But if the chances are high that your being near them or with them will put you in trouble, make sure they can’t reach you, not to talk of affect or influence you. Yes, be completely unavailable to them and whatever nonsense Satan may want to use them to drag you into. And may you continually be filled with adequate wisdom to know where is not a resting place for you, in Jesus’ name. Amen.

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Saint Shechem was a rapist | By: J.O. Lawal | Date: February 14, 2024 | Series: Youth for Jesus | Number: Vol. 6, No. 40

fire in my bones
fire in my bones

“Now Dinah, the daughter Leah had borne to Jacob, went out to visit the women of the land. When Shechem son of Hamor the Hivite, the ruler of that area, saw her, he took her and violated her.” (Gen 34:1-2NIV)

Why did Dinah, the daughter of Jacob, go out to visit the women of the land of Shechem? It must have been because doing so seemed harmless. But by the end of that same day, she was no longer the same. She had been defiled and raped; she had been treated like a common sex slave.

Now who raped Dinah? It was a young man called Shechem. And what does the bible say about this young man? It says that he was the most honoured of all the members of his father’s household (Gen 34:19). That means he was an exception among them. It means that he was better than all of them in character and in conduct. So, in the eyes of the people of their city, he was the saint in that family, Saint Shechem.

Nevertheless, Saint Shechem was a rapist. Saint Shechem was not a man that would exercise patience and follow due process in securing the hand of a woman in marriage before having anything to do with her. If he wanted to have a woman, then, he must have her, even if raping her was the only way. Yet he was the most honourable of all the members of his family. What kind of people, then, would other members of his family be? Murderers! Assassins! Kidnappers! Drunkards! Robbers! Thieves! Homosexuals! Lesbians! Swindlers!

Well then, if someone has these kinds of people in his life as his family members, will it not be foolish or naïve of us to think of him as a good and honourable person? It will be. Yes, he may appear smooth, sweet and honest in talking and in showing care. But unless we have known him for a while as someone that takes God seriously and have also watched him consistently demonstrate godly character for a reasonable period of time, it will be naïve of us to think he is harmless.

Dinah was naïve to have thought of Saint Shechem as harmless. Truly, he may have been a smooth and cool young man. But the fact that all the members of his household were wicked and godless people was enough to make her stay away from him until she knew who he truly was. Yes, everyone in town spoke highly of him and thought of him as an exception in his father’s household. But who were these people that were speaking highly of him? Pagans! Lawless people!

If the town’s people of Shechem had not been idolatrous and lawless, they would have arrested and judged him the moment he raped another man’s daughter. But what did they do when they learnt of what he had done? Nothing righteous! They were all probably laughing among themselves and wondering how enjoyable raping Dinah must have been for him.

So, while it was utterly wrong of Saint Shechem to rape Dinah, it was Dinah’s own naivety that made what he did possible. Truly, her brothers later intervened and made sure she got justice for the harm she had suffered. But how did that change anything. The harm had already been done and she had to live and die with the consequences. (Cf. Gen 34:5-31)

What is the point of all this? Don’t be naïve. Don’t be ignorantly trusting. Someone may look charming and outwardly alright by all standards. It does not mean they cannot hurt you terribly. And people may be praising someone as the exception among their peers or counterparts. It does not mean they cannot injure or corrupt you.

See, the quality of a testimony is directly related to the reputation of the one giving it. So, when someone is being praised or recommended to you, look beyond what is being said about the person to the character of the one saying it. That is what will tell you how seriously you should take their testimony. Otherwise, you may have your life ruined on the basis of a corrupt testimony.

Now understand that it does not take forever to ruin a life. A few seconds are enough to ruin it, especially on this valentine day. So, look out for yourself.

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A motivation for jealousy | By: J.O. Lawal | Date: February 07, 2024 | Series: Youth for Jesus | Number: Vol. 6, No. 39

fire in my bones
fire in my bones

A motivation for jealousy | By: J.O. Lawal | Date: February 07, 2024 | Series: Youth for Jesus | Number: Vol. 6, No. 39

“And from that time on Saul kept a jealous eye on David.” (1Sam 18:9NIV)

When did King Saul begin to keep a jealous eye on David? It was when all the armies of Israel returned to the land after David had killed Goliath. That means Saul was not always jealous or afraid of David. On the contrary, he once loved and cherished him.

First, he loved him as the anointed musician that used to comfort him with his music, especially when an evil spirit would come to torment him (1Sam 16:21-23). Second, he loved him as a vibrant upcoming Israelite warrior. Look at what the bible says about their relationship before jealousy tore them apart: “After David had finished talking with Saul, Jonathan became one in spirit with David, and he loved him as himself. From that day Saul kept David with him and did not let him return to his father’s house.” (1Sam 18:1-2NIV)

Can you see that Saul was already seeing David as a son and member of his family after his exploit in killing Goliath? How, then, did jealousy come in and separate them? Well, as we are further shown in the bible, it came in through the indiscreet singing of the women of the land that came to welcome them home after David had killed Goliath.

Before that time, Saul had been their champion. He had been the warrior king that was handling all their enemies for them. But when David showed up and defeated Goliath the giant, the selective memory of the people would not allow them to remember all that Saul had done for them. So, they began to talk everywhere about David and what he had done. There may have even been some exaggerations here and there, just to make the story of his fight against Goliath sweeter in the ear.

Then, to make matters worse, they brought their high praise of David to Saul’s doorsteps. They sang the song they had composed in his praise in his ears. Therefore, he did not need any prophet to let him see that the people had already begun to replace him with David in their hearts. (Cf. 1Sam 17:6-7)

Now, if Saul had not stopped being a spirit-led man at the time, he would, most likely, not have taken the matter to heart. But the Spirit of God had already left him. And as if that were not enough, a special evil spirit had begun to torment him. So, the song of those women irritated him. Not only that, it made him afraid that he might someday lose his kingdom to David, even though he was not yet aware that he had been ordained by God as king in his stead.

Therefore, he began to keep a jealous eye on him. And that, of course, made life miserable for David for the rest of this man’s life. That was because all that he wanted was to get rid of him and prevent him from taking over his kingdom.

What is the main point of all this? It is that we should be careful of how we use praise, especially when dealing with men. Praise that is not wisely handled or well directed can become a motivation for jealousy. Yes, we need to praise those that have done things deserving of praise. But we should watch where we praise them and how we praise them.

Don’t praise anyone beyond what they are meant to be given credit for. Don’t be selective in praising anybody, especially when you are dealing with a team. And don’t misappropriate praise. In other words, don’t give the praise that is meant for God to man or the praise that is meant for A to B. You may just be stirring up jealousy in others for the person you are praising and creating problems that are larger than them for them. And if they are not shown mercy and protected by God, the way David was shown mercy and protected by Him from King Saul, they may not live long to enjoy the fruit of what earned them your praise.

Mind you, as I already briefly mentioned, a misappropriation of praise can stir up jealousy even in God. Why was the Herod that wanted to kill Peter struck down by an angel of God? Was it because he had killed James and had also attempted to kill Peter? No! Rather, it was because when certain people began to give him the praise that was due to God, he accepted it instead of returning it to God. (Cf. Acts 12:19-23)

So, don’t arouse God’s jealousy against anyone by giving the praise that is due to Him to them. Otherwise, they too may have their lives cut short by Him, as Herod’s life was cut short by Him. What joy, then, would that give you?

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What is He looking for? | By: J.O. Lawal | Date: January 31, 2024 | Series: Youth for Jesus | Number: Vol. 6, No. 38

fire in my bones
fire in my bones

“But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”” (1Sam 16:7NIV)

Who is the Lord referring to here, in our opening text? He is referring to Eliab, Jesse’s eldest son and David’s eldest brother. And what does the Lord say about him to Samuel? He says I have rejected him. What has He rejected him for? He has rejected for kingship over Israel.

Now I am sure you know that you cannot say that you have rejected someone, if you have not yet considered him. So, the reason God freely said to Samuel that He had rejected Eliab as king over Israel was that He had already considered him. When did He consider him? We would not know. But it is clear from this text that God often carries out hidden examination on people. And when He is done, the result is what will determine whether He will exalt us, leave us where are, demote us or even extinguish us.

Remember King Belshazzar. Remember that on his last day here on earth God told him the following:

“Mene: God has numbered the days of your reign and brought it to an end.
Tekel: You have been weighed on the scales and found wanting.
Peres: Your kingdom is divided and given to the Medes and Persians.” (Dan 5:26-28NIV)

When did God start numbering the days of this man’s reign? We would not know. And when did He begin to weigh his life and performance? We would not know. Everything was hidden from him and everyone else until the last few hours of his life. And even when it was made known to him that his time was up and that his kingdom and authority would be given to someone else, did he do anything to change God’s mind? No!

Why did he do nothing to change God’s mind and verdict concerning him? Did he not believe the words of Daniel, the man of God that explained this revelation to him? He believed them. Otherwise, he would not have celebrated and exalted him that day. Why, then, did he make no move to save himself? Perhaps he thought he still had more time to repent. Or perhaps he was ignorant of the forgiving nature of God. Whatever the case may be, he perished that same night because he had failed God’s examination. (Cf. Dan 5:29-31)

Well, the point of it all is that we all are under God’s examination, whether we are aware of it or not. And what He finds in us is what will determine what He does to us or with us when He is ready to judge. So, we need to constantly work towards being successful when examined by Him. Otherwise, God forbid, our fate may end up being like Eliab’s or Belshazzar’s.

But can we work towards passing God’s examination, if we don’t even know what He is looking for? What is He looking for in our lives? What is it that He wants to see in us in order to elevate us, prosper us or prolong our days here on earth? Is it our beauty, our colour, our language, our education, our wealth or our social status? No!

As we see in our opening text, it is man that looks at outward appearances – what God looks at is the heart. So, what is your heart? What is in my heart? When God saw pride in the devil, He brought him down. And when He saw greed in King Saul, He rejected him as king. We are not told what He saw in Eliab too that made Him reject him as king. But certainly, He must have seen in him something that should not be there or He must not have seen in him something that should be there.

My prayer, in any case, is that your heart will be rid of everything that may make God reject or cast you down and instead filled to overflowing with everything good and precious enough to make Him continually honour, lift and protect you. Amen.

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Don’t lie to yourself | By: J.O. Lawal | Date: January 24, 2024 | Series: Youth for Jesus | Number: Vol. 6, No. 37

fire in my bones
fire in my bones

“Saul said to David, “Here is my older daughter Merab. I will give her to you in marriage; only serve me bravely and fight the battles of the LORD.” For Saul said to himself, “I will not raise a hand against him. Let the Philistines do that!” But David said to Saul, “Who am I, and what is my family or my father’s clan in Israel, that I should become the king’s son-in-law?” So when the time came for Merab, Saul’s daughter, to be given to David, she was given in marriage to Adriel of Meholah.” (1Sam 18:17-19NIV)

What did King Saul have in mind, when he told David that he was going to give him his daughter, Merab, in marriage? His death! It was not his happiness or his own daughter’s happiness that he sought. Rather, he just wanted to keep David close enough to him, so that he may have his opportunity to destroy him. And you may have heard the saying, “Keep your friends close but your enemies closer.” That was the evil principle that Saul was employing against David at the time.

Now did David know what Saul was up to? No! How, then, did he escape his trap? He escaped simply because he would not lie to himself about the situation at hand. The young man would simply not think of himself more highly than he ought to. How?

Well, David knew that becoming the king’s son-in-law was not a small thing. Where would he get the dowry that would be set for him? Where would he get the money to entertain all the important dignitaries that would grace their wedding, seeing that it was a princess’ wedding? What about the place the princess would stay after their wedding? Did he have the resources to put up a befitting place for her?

As we see in the bible, this young man did not start out in life as a wealthy person. Instead, he started out as a poor shepherd boy. Yes, at the time in question, God had elevated him and built him up to be a mighty and well-respected warrior in the land of Israel. That, however, did not change the fact that his family was not wealthy, influential and politically powerful enough to marry from the king’s family.

To accept that offer, then, was to place a heavy burden on himself and on his family members, a burden which they not be able to carry without experiencing disgrace or which may throw them into years of debt. So, he respectfully rejected it and moved on with his life.

Now did heavens fall down because of this? No! On the contrary, sometimes later, he was presented with another opportunity to marry another princess from Saul’s family. And this time around, he accepted the offer and married the girl involved. Why? First, the bride price had been set even before Saul’s men began to talk to him about it. Second, the bride price set was something that he and his men could handle; it was something that placed no immediate or future burden on his family members. Third, the young lady involved was truly in love with him and was ready to marry him, even though he was not a rich man at the time. So, marrying her was like a piece of cake for him. (Cf. 1Sam 18:20-29)

What is the point of all this? Well, it is that you should never lie to yourself about what you can really handle in life and what you cannot handle. See, all kinds of opportunities will surely come our way in this life. But it is not each of them that we can handle or that is meant for us. And what will keep us from going for opportunities that are beyond us or that are not meant for us at all is a possession of a true estimation of who we are and what we can truly handle in life.

If it is clear to us, then, that an opportunity is beyond what we can handle, it will only be wise of us to let it pass, as David did in Merab’s case. Yes, we may like that opportunity. It may even be a once in a lifetime opportunity. Nevertheless, inasmuch as it beyond what we or those in our lives can happily handle, we should not drive ourselves or anyone else into poverty, debt or disgrace because of it.

Why? There will be other suitable opportunities for us to live out God’s dreams for us in life. And all we need is to be building up ourselves to be ready for them. But if we have already ruined our lives or dragged everyone in our lives into disgrace because we want to utilize at all cost certain opportunities that are not meant for us, when those ones meant for us eventually come, we may not be alive or in the right frame of mind to utilize them.

So, calm down, my friend, and don’t lie to yourself. Not every opportunity is meant for you.

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Title: Borrowed to do good

fire in my bones
fire in my bones

Date: January 17, 2024|Series: Youth for Jesus|Number: Vol. 6, No. 36

“The LORD had seen how bitterly everyone in Israel, whether slave or free, was suffering; there was no one to help them. And since the LORD had not said he would blot out the name of Israel from under heaven, he saved them by the hand of Jeroboam son of Jehoash.” (2Kings 14:26-27NIV)

Who did God use in saving the people of Israel from their suffering, as we are told in our opening text? It was their King, Jeroboam son of Jehoash. And what kind of man was he? Here is what is said about him in the bible: “In the fifteenth year of Amaziah son of Joash king of Judah, Jeroboam son of Jehoash king of Israel became king in Samaria, and he reigned forty-one years. He did evil in the eyes of the LORD and did not turn away from any of the sins of Jeroboam son of Nebat, which he had caused Israel to commit.” (2Kings 14:23-25NIV)

So, Jeroboam was an evil and sinful man. Yet God used him in saving His people from their suffering. What is that telling us? It is that it is not only good people that God can use to save, help or lift us. He can use bad and wicked people too. To say the fact, there are times that God may not find any good person in a place to use to save or help the oppressed. For instance, David says this in a Psalm of his:“The LORD looks down from heaven on the sons of men to see if there are any who understand, any who seek God. All have turned aside, they have together become corrupt; there is no one who does good, not even one.” (Ps 14:2-3NIV)

Did you see that? It is possible for God to look down from heaven on a particular town, city or country and not see anyone who is not corrupt or who is devoted to doing good that He can use to build that country. What, then, would be the fate of those suffering in that country, if God were to wait until He finds or raises up a good and righteous person to help them? They may have to suffer for a much longer time.

However, because He is a compassionate God, even if using a wicked and ungodly person is what will bring urgent relief and comfort to the oppressed that are crying out to Him, He may decide to use him. And this is one of the reasons He commands us to be submissive to anyone that is in a position of authority, whether he is a good person or a bad one (Rom 13:1-5). He knows that we often resent those who are evil, believing that they are incapable of doing anything good.

So, we may not want to give them the respect and honour they deserve, if they happen to be in a position of authority over us.But the fact that someone is evil does not mean that God cannot borrow them to do good. God can borrow them to do good and He does sometimes borrow evil people to do good. That, of course, does not change the fact that they are evil and will ultimately be judged as such, if they never repent from their evil till they die. But if they are the only tool available for Him to do certain good things He wants to do for mankind, He may not hesitate to borrow and use them.

Also, the fact that someone is evil does not mean that the person does not deserve our respect. The word of God tells us to show proper respect to everyone. So, even if someone is evil, as long as he is occupying a position of authority or advantage, give him the respect and honour he deserves. It is not because of him that you are doing that; rather, it is because God, who has permitted him to be in that position, has ordered you to do so. And by obeying Him, you will be making it easy for Him to borrow him to do you good, even though he is a wicked person. (Cf. 1Pet 1:13-17)

At least, as we are shown in Scriptures, one of the reasons God places people in positions of authority is that He may use them to do good to those under them. And all that He wants from those under such people is to be submissive to them, based on the measure of their authority. That way, even if they are wicked and unreasonable, He will have just reasons to borrow and use them to do good to those under them or to replace them, if they will not allow themselves to be used by Him.

But if those under authority will not be submissive to their leaders, in line with the will of God, even if all those who are leading them are good and righteous people, God may not be able to use them to make life sweet or safe for them. So, don’t look at the goodness or evil in the lives of those who have authority over you before you submit to them. Instead, submit to them because God has ordered you to do so. Also, don’t insist that it is only good people that God should use to do you good. Otherwise, you may have to wait forever for that to happen. Instead, respect God’s wisdom in determining whom He uses in helping or saving you. And as long as He is the one working, He will not offer you corrupt help or salvation, even if He has to use an evil person. Cheers!

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Don’t take advantage of them | By: J.O. Lawal | Date: January 10, 2024 | Series: Youth for Jesus | Number: Vol. 6, No. 35

fire in my bones
fire in my bones

“…and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you.” (1Thess 4:6NIV)

In what matters are we not to wrong or take advantage of our neighbours? In matters relating to sex! Paul starts his admonition in the passage from which our opening text is taken by telling his readers that the will of God for them is to abstain from sexual immorality. And how are we to do that, seeing that we are living a world that is saturated with all kinds of immoral acts? According to him, it is by learning to control of bodies in ways that are holy and honourable, as those who know and fear God. (Cf. 1Thess 4:3-5)

But then, we have to deal with the fact that there may be times in which we have to relate to people who are weak in controlling their sexual appetites or who are ignorant of what could lead them into sexual sins or who are going through situations that could expose them to sexual sins. And what are we to do at such times? Are we to see in them opportunities for free or cheap sexual relations? No! Instead, we are to show that we fear God by refusing to take advantage of them.

For example, as we see in the bible, Potiphar’s wife was an emotionally weak woman. Otherwise, she would not stoop as low as to want to have sexual relations with her husband’s slave. But did Joseph take advantage of her? No! Did he see her weakness as an opportunity to have some cheap sex? No! Instead, he did all he could to make sure that they were never alone together. And even when the woman attempted to rape him, he lost no time to make good his escape. Why? He feared God. Therefore, he was eventually honoured and elevated by Him, even though he had to suffer unjustly for a while. (Cf. Gen 39)

In like manner, if you are dealing with someone of the opposite sex that is emotionally weak, always wanting your sympathy or wanting to hold, touch, embrace or be with you for no legitimate reason, don’t get carried away and take advantage of the situation. You can already see that they are weak. So, if you cannot help them, then, don’t abuse or take advantage of them. Otherwise, God, as Paul shows us in our opening text, will not fail to punish you accordingly.

Also, don’t use people’s desperation, loss or low position in life to take advantage of them. You know that they need your help, healing or comfort or that they cannot move to another level of success without you. So, instead of truly helping, healing or comforting them or instead of making their trip to higher grounds easy for them, you begin to seek how to take advantage of them sexually. You are wrong and are sinning against God. And that will surely come with grave consequences.

Mind you, it is not only in sex matters that we can take advantage of others. Even in matters concerning material things, we can take advantage of them. If, for instance, we know that someone is weak in saying ‘No’ to us, whether out of respect for us or out of deep affection for us, we can take advantage of that and be taking from them things we have no right to take from them or be pressuring them to do things their hearts don’t want to do. That is evil, a sort of witchcraft. And God will judge sooner or later, if repentance is delayed.

Also, we can take advantage of people’s miseries to receive from them what we don’t deserve to have. Our Lord Jesus, for example, rebuked the Jewish religious leaders of His time for devouring widows’ houses. How were they devouring their houses? By playing on their emotions! We all know that widows are bound to have moments of loneliness, moments in which they may want someone, anyone, to comfort them. And that is what those Jewish religious leaders often capitalised on. They would go to widows’ houses in the name of bringing them comfort and have long prayer sessions there. But they weren’t really there to comfort them, as our Lord points out, but to devour their wealth or inheritance. (Cf. Matt 23:14; Mark 12:40; Luke 20:47)

Think about it yourself. Would you allow a man of God, who had spent two or three hours praying with you in your house, to go empty-handed? No! Instead, you would want to find something for him. And if you happened to be rich, you would do your best to load him money and other things. That, of course, was what those Jewish religious leaders were looking forward to by visiting the widows of their time. They were simply looking for ways to take advantage of their emotional situations to extort them or to even sleep with them. And our Lord Jesus says that people who do such things will receive greater condemnation.

Well, the point I am making is that we should watch ourselves in our dealings with those who are weak emotionally or in character and those who are desperate, so that we don’t take advantage of them for any reason. Otherwise, the condemnation that will follow may ruin everything good in our lives.

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Fire in my Bones Youth for Jesus

Title: Adjusted circumstances|FIRE IN MY BONES

fire in my bones
fire in my bones

Date: January 03, 2024|Series: Youth for Jesus|Number: Vol. 6, No. 34

“By day the LORD went ahead of them in a pillar of cloud to guide them on their way and by night in a pillar of fire to give them light, so that they could travel by day or night. Neither the pillar of cloud by day nor the pillar of fire by night left its place in front of the people.” (Ex 13:21-22NIV)

Who is the text above referring to? It is the children of Israel that Moses led out of Egypt. And what is the point being communicated to us about them in the text? It is that they functioned under adjusted circumstances in order to safely get to the land of rest that God was taking them.As we see in the text, when these Israelites came out of Egypt, God provided a pillar of cloud to be over them during the day and a pillar of fire to be over them during the night.

Why? First, it was to give them guidance. Why did they need guidance? It was because they did not know the way to the place God was taking them. Yes, they knew that God was taking them to a place of rest, a land flowing with milk and honey. But how would they get there? They did not know. They needed God Himself, then, to guide them moment by moment till they arrived there safely. And did He guide them or not? He did guide them by providing a pillar of cloud to lead them in the way they should go during the day and a pillar of fire to lead them in the way they should go during the night.

So, when these pillars moved, they also moved and moved in whatever direction the pillars went. And when these pillars stopped moving, they also stopped moving and camped wherever the pillars stopped. That was how God guided them all through the time they spent in the desert until they came into the promised land. So, they were never clueless or ignorant of the direction they should go. (Cf. Deut 9:15-23)

Now God, of course, does not guide anyone in this manner anymore. But He is still devoted to guiding those who commit their lives to Him in the path they should follow to be established in His rest and prosperity. How? Basically, He guides them through His word and by His Spirit. There are also times that He guides them through life’s circumstances, visions, dreams, angelic visitations, prophecies and direct revelations of Himself.

We, however, don’t have to wait for any of these before we daily receive God’s guidance. We just need to give ourselves to reading, studying and meditating on His word. And He, by His Spirit that He has put in us, will teach us what is best for us in life and guide us in the way we should go. That being the case, we too, like those Israelites of old, will never be clueless where others are or be ignorant of which direction we should be going in life where others are ignorant of it.

The second reason God provided the pillar of cloud by the day and that of fire by the night for those children of Israel was that they may be able to travel anytime without hindrance. That explains why the Egyptians who were pursuing them could not move at their pace or catch up with them. Though they were moving at the same time and in the same place, they were operating under different circumstances. Why? It was because God adjusted the circumstances of the time and the place to favour the Israelites. (Cf: Ex 14)

In addition to that, God provided the pillar of cloud by the day for those people to protect them from the intense heat of the desert. Therefore, they could move around freely in the desert without fainting. Also, He provided the pillar of fire for them by the night to give them warmth, so that the cold of the night would not make them sick. And what do you call that? Adjusted circumstances! Now does God still adjust or tune life’s circumstances to favour men? Yes, He still does. He still adjusts life’s circumstances, so that those He favours can be guided, protected or granted speed for accomplishment where others are terrified or clueless.

And all that we need to see Him adjust the circumstances of life that are bound to make others fail, perish or stagnate for our good is to humbly entrust our lives and all that concerns us to Him. That way, even if where we are now is a desert, a dry and weary land in which there is no water, God will adjust the circumstances there to favour us and see us protected and prosperous.A word of caution, however: Always be careful to function only within the boundaries of the circumstances God has placed you in life.

Yes, if those circumstances are not favourable enough, you should talk to God about adjusting or changing them for you. But don’t ever try to run your life on the basis of the circumstances others have been placed in. Otherwise, you may have yourself ruined where they have excelled. Remember that the Egyptians tried to pass through the same Red Sea the Israelites passed through and at the same time. Yet all of them perished there.

Why? The simple reason was that though they were passing through the same place at the same time, the circumstances under which they were doing so were adjusted only for the Israelites and not for them. So, be discerning. Don’t foolishly copy or imitate anyone, just because you think you are operating under the same circumstances. You may just not be operating under the same circumstances. And if you copy them, where that is the case, you may end up having yourself to blame, if you are not shown mercy.Be discerning, then, my friend.

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Fire in my Bones Youth for Jesus

What it is your motivation? | By: J.O. Lawal | Date: December 27, 2023 | Series: Youth for Jesus | Number: Vol. 6, No. 33

fire in my bones
fire in my bones

“Then I observed that most people are motivated to success because they envy their neighbors. But this, too, is meaningless—like chasing the wind.” (Eccl 4:4NLT)

We have, by the grace of God, come to another year-end. And as it should be, this is a time in which people should settle down to see how their lives have fared in the year. But while it is important that we settle down to evaluate our lives and affairs to see how things have been with us in the year, the yardsticks we use in doing so are even more important. That is the because the yardsticks we use in evaluating ourselves are what will determine whether our evaluation will be true, objective and reliable as a point of reference or not.

Now among the yardsticks people use in evaluating themselves is the measure of success or failure of their neighbours. And when we are talking about ‘neighbours’ in this sense, we are referring to anyone close enough to us to get our attention. So, that person may be a friend, a sibling, a colleague at work or in school, a church member or a business competitor. Whoever the person is to us, what is happening in their life is important enough to get our attention and make us judge ourselves as progressive, stagnant or retrogressive.

But is it right for us to judge ourselves as a success or a failure on the basis of what is happening or has happened in other people’s lives, even if those people are our blood relatives? No! Why? It is because the word of God says so. Look at the way it puts it: “We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise.” (2Cor 10:12NIV)

Did you see that? It is a foolish thing to judge ourselves according to human standards. Yes, it is a foolish thing to compare our lives with the lives of others in order to determine whether our lives are doing well or not. Why? First, it is because God, who created all of us, has made each of us differently, with different potential and abilities. Second, it is because the circumstances of our lives are different, regardless of how closely related or bonded we may be. Therefore, God’s expectations on every life are different.

Since God’s expectations on every life are different, it follows, then, that He will be rating how each of us is doing in life according to those expectations. So, it is how well we meet up with His expectations on our lives that will say whether He will consider us to be a success or a failure, not how well we meet up with what is going in others’ lives or how better we do than them.

Unfortunately, as I mentioned earlier, most people evaluate their lives according to what is going on in the lives of others around them. Therefore, as Solomon tells us in our opening text, their motivation for success in life is envy, the envy of their neighbour. There is, of course, a good side to envy. That is when you envy certain attributes of success or devotion to doing what is right that you see in others, so that you can emulate them. But anything that goes beyond that is of the evil one.

What we are saying is that if the reason you want to be whatever you want to be or have whatever you want to have in life is that you are envious of someone, then, you are missing it. You are simply chasing the wind. In other words, you are going after the impossible. You cannot be another person, however hard you try. And you can never have what another person has unless you steal or buy it from them. Then, even if you possess for yourself what belongs to another person, you can never enjoy it the way they have enjoyed it or will enjoy it. That is because life is designed for each of us to enjoy differently, according to the measure of grace measured out to us by God.

So, stop drawing your motivation from what is happening in other people’s lives but from God’s expectations on your life. That way, you will not be evaluating your life according to their success or failure. This, then, means that you need to know God’s expectations on your life. And you can know them by giving yourself to His word, by praying to Him and also by fellowshipping with others who know Him. My prayer is that you will be guided and strengthened to evaluate your life in this light this year-end, in Jesus’ name. Amen.

Cheers!

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Fire in my Bones Youth for Jesus

Title: Be thoughtful in appreciation|Fire in my bones

fire in my bones
fire in my bones

Date: December 20, 2023|Series: Youth for Jesus|Number: Vol. 6, No. 32

“When Haman entered, the king asked him, “What should be done for the man the king delights to honor?” Now Haman thought to himself, “Who is there that the king would rather honor than me?” So he answered the king, “For the man the king delights to honor, have them bring a royal robe the king has worn and a horse the king has ridden, one with a royal crest placed on its head. Then let the robe and horse be entrusted to one of the king’s most noble princes. Let them robe the man the king delights to honor, and lead him on the horse through the city streets, proclaiming before him, ‘This is what is done for the man the king delights to honor!'” “Go at once,” the king commanded Haman. “Get the robe and the horse and do just as you have suggested for Mordecai the Jew, who sits at the king’s gate. Do not neglect anything you have recommended.”” (Est 6:6-10NIV)

The bible passage above is clearly a familiar one to many readers of the bible. And it speaks of how the great King Xerxes appreciated and honoured a Jew called Mordecai. As the story goes, Mordecai once exposed certain officers of this king that had plotted to assassinate him. Why did they plot to assassinate him? We are not told in the account. But we are told that Mordecai found out about them and was discreet enough to expose them before they were able to carry out their wicked plot or escape. (Cf. Esther 2:21-23)

However, as the account also further reveals, Xerxes did not appreciate Mordecai at all for this act of kindness done to him. Yes, what he did was recorded in the book of the annals of his kingdom right before him. Nonetheless, he did nothing to appreciate him. Why? We would not know. Maybe he did not consider what he did as anything special at the time. Or maybe he was just in a prolonged bad mood. We wouldn’t know.But there came a time when Mordecai really needed this man to return the favour and spare his life and the lives of his people too.

That, of course, was when God, who does not forget people and who knows how to turn people’s mistakes or omissions around for the good of His people, brought about circumstances that drove this king to revisit the matter. And when he did, he himself was surprised that he did nothing to appreciate Mordecai for his act of kindness and faithfulness to him and the realm. So, he immediately began to think of how best to reward him.Well, as he thought hard about how best to reward Mordecai, that is, in accordance with his own status as an emperor, his most beloved official, Haman, came in. It was he, then, that helped this king in properly dealing with the matter.

Of course, he came up with what he came up with because he had arrogantly thought that the reward was coming to him. But the fact that he put himself in the picture helped in coming up with a sort of appreciation that the king himself could not resist or reject. It was just perfect for him.What, then, is the account teaching us? First, it is that we should learn not to overlook people’s acts of kindness to us. Instead, we should appreciate them on time, that is, when it will make the most sense.

Otherwise, we may end up having God drive us to do what we have neglected to do, in a more expensive or grand way. Looking again at Xerxes’ case: if he had appreciated Mordecai immediately after he saved his life, he may not have needed to go through the trouble of treating him like an emperor. Delayed appreciation, then, will most likely cost you more. So, don’t delay or defer giving appreciation to whom it is due. And even if, for some reasons, you failed to appreciate certain people you should have appreciated, you should still appreciate them the moment your error is brought to your notice.

Why? It is better late than never. Another important lesson from this bible story is the need for us to be thoughtful in appreciating others. Don’t be involved in giving useless or meaningless appreciation or gifts to people. Instead, always be thoughtful about what you want to do. Appreciating people is never mainly about money but about our thoughtfulness in doing it. That great king, Xerxes, did not spend money in appreciating Mordecai. But the kind of appreciation he gave to him was more than what anyone in his kingdom could hope for in a lifetime. He made him wear his royal robe, ride his royal horse and wear his royal crest on his head. Then he had him led through the royal city by his most dignified official, with the herald ‘This is how the king treats the man he honours.’ That, of course, changed Mordecai’s status in the realm for the rest of his life.

So, it is not mainly about how much we are able to spend in appreciating those who have done us good in life. It is mainly about being thoughtful. It is mainly about carefully considering the best way to appreciate them, in the light of what they have done for us and also in the light of our own status. And if we know how to think well about ourselves, as Haman did, we should have no problem coming up with truly nice and pleasant ways of appreciating people. Will you try this, then, as we come to the last days of this year, as we come to this season of thanksgiving and appreciation? And may God load you with sufficient wisdom, determination and resources to appreciate well all the people that deserve your appreciation at this time, in Jesus’ name. Amen.